I had the opportunity to interview with a researcher investigating Tantric Sex and want to share some excerpts with you. I am also elated to have recently organized several groups dedicated to bringing together people and engaging in open conversation about the transformative and generative potentials of our sexuality. I’ll keep you posted…
What is tantric sex? Tantra is a sanskrit word meaning ‘an expansion of consciousness’. Tantric sex, solo and paired, involves prolonged sexual excitation with sincere reverence for one’s partner and one’s self leading to heightened states of sensual pleasure and euphoria often culminating in ecstasy and enlightenment. In Tantric sex, the goal is not necessarily the ‘full body orgasm’, but instead, an enhanced nurturing of sexual energy flowing throughout the body which can be accomplished by ‘edging orgasms’- getting to the threshold of full body orgasms but not going beyond.
Why do you think there’s a rise in tantric sex all of a sudden? People are becoming aware that there is much more to our sexuality than its reproductive and gratification functions. There is now available information spanning ancient Taoist-Hindu-Yoga sexual doctrine and modern medical information that highlights sex’s transformative and generative functions.
Who is tantric sex good for? Tantric sex is good for everyone, of all ages(following full sexual development), of all sexual orientations. Tantric sex has the power to connect people, solo and paired, in a timeless state of euphoria and ecstasy thus creating an enriched state of well-being that always accompanies us. Tantric sex is one of the best exercises available to stimulate our brain, our endocrine system, and our overall nervous system. Of great importance is how Tantric sex stimulates the sex glands to produce our important sex hormones, testosterone and estrogen, responsible for maintaining healthy our memory, bones, muscles, and brains.
How can you get your partner into it? Finding and sharing the appropriate literature with a clear and practical approach to enjoying and appreciating our solo and paired sexuality is an important step. Masturbation with edging orgasms is helpful allowing people to explore their own sexuality, learn orgasmic control, and ultimately become better lovers with themselves and their partners.
Thanks for the info, Bila
I want to learn more, especially about solo techniques. With my limited knowledge and practice I have found masturbating to be very valuable to my health and recovery. For sure it gives me more energy and less pain. Any day that starts with a half hour or more of masturbating is bound to be a good day. Even better when I can do it outside.
Specifically, I want to learn more about distributing the energy from my penis to the rest of my body. Edging feels nice, but it seems to concentrate the energy into the “about to ejaculate” feeling. Sometimes I can kind of pull the energy into my abdomen or up my spine but not consistently. What is the tantric method of doing that?
Greetings Rick, First, I would suggest you get a copy of my book(available on my website) which goes into great detail about channeling sexual energy through the coccyx, up the spine, into the head, and through the major chakras which are linked to our 7 major endocrine glands-pituitary, pineal, thyroid, thymus, adrenals, pancreas, and sex glands. In the meantime, here’s the gist:
1- Stimulate yourself to the point where you feel sexual energy has filled your engorged penis, basically at the edge or threshold of spasm.
2- Massage/squeeze your right testicle, do repeated sphincter contractions, and pull the sexual energy to the coccyx. Visualize this.
3- From the coccyx, visualize and feel the energy as you pull it up the spine arriving at your head while still doing sphincter contractions and testicle squeezes. Then, pause for a moment and enjoy the feeling of the sexual energy in your head and throughout your body.
4- Then go back to stimulating yourself to fill your reservoir with sexual energy. Take your time, enjoy…
5- Repeat step 1, then for step 2 massage your left testicle, steps 3, 4 are the same.
There are mantra or mental vocalizations that can accompany each of these steps. As you bring the energy down from the head to the chakras there are also mantras to mentally vocalize as you visualize the energy reaching each one of these areas. My advice is to first work with drawing the energy from your genitals and consciously channeling it up to your head. Get comfortable with this and then you might want to explore working with your chakras(although your body naturally does this when sexually stimulated- the pituitary sends target hormones to the thyroid, adrenals, and sex glands).