Sexual re-creation

Sexual energy is creation in so many amazing forms: Procreation, Recreation, Re-creation. It’s the ultimate creative energy that can be mindfully cultivated to produce loving relationships including love of self.

I am immensely happy that you initiated this Meetup group Physical Consciousness Raising. I can envision incredible energy transformations resulting from this group. I am very proud of you for continuing to expand the RPM journey. 


I feel energized and healed

Dear Dr. Kolbe, What a great read.  Thanks for making it available. I first encountered this topic in my twenties with Mantak Chia’s book. But semen retention was a difficult task back then! Now in my fifties and facing down a very difficult cancer, this process has become much more relevant.  For sure now I have to carefully manage my energy, and I know that if I release it, I’m down for days, and if I preserve it and pull it back into my body I feel energized and healed.  I would bet I’m still alive partly due to this. Very important in your book you point out that sexuality is as important as diet and exercise.  I will take that to heart and be more serious with my practices!  Also, I think your book is unique in promoting solo practice.  All the other literature seems to imply you are unclean if you don’t do this with a partner, which I think would be impractical.  Surely the monks throughout the world and throughout the centuries have masturbated their way to enlightenment.

Experiencing a boost in health and healing

“This is a very interesting topic to me.  I believe my practices so far of long masturbating sessions without ejaculating have boosted my health tremendously.  It feels like I can draw the energy into me and use it for healing.  I have been looking for more resources on the topic, very difficult to find, so I am happy I found your program on the Michael Blum show.”

Love, freedom, and compassion are the antidotes to fear, control, and judgment.

Wow, again I am awestruck with the elegance and heartfelt truthfulness of your comments about things-are-beautiful-if-you-love- them on Betty’s blog. Love, freedom, and compassion are the antidotes to fear, control, and judgment. When one is not afraid to appreciate and love anything that is beautiful within creation, one can truly live in the flow of life. There are so many messages in the culture that expect us to be fearful of not being fearful.  I know, to be afraid of not being afraid, seems ridiculous. In my mind, one of the ultimate signs of a confident man, is to be able to appreciate and acknowledge the beatify of women and men. If I cannot see the beautify of own gender, than how can one think and feel that they have something wonderful to offer to the other gender. Numerous studies have shown that the most homophobic men are the ones who struggle the most with homosexual feelings. On the contrary, men who can confidently admire the physique of another man, are the ones most comfortable in their own skin and have capacity to relate and connect with women and friends. Dr. Kolbe, I admire your forthrightness to adding this post to Betty’s blog. It is further evidence of your confidence and authenticity. I hope you aware that your body is a living tabernacle of the most high. Every part of your body and your being is a living sculpture. Your heart and mind elevate the experiences of humanity is the most important calling you can engage in. Thank you again,  for spreading the  ultimate goodness of life-force energy with full Union of mind, body, and spirit . Living as if all our our souls are  connected  is a very joyful way to live. Please take some extra time to appreciate yourself and your wonderful mission”’


“I’m over a month[exercising a la RPM] and feeling wonderful. Things are working wonderfully and I’m starting to see some slow progress at lasting longer. I’ve been doing a zillion kegels, am edging when I consciously masturbate, and the other morning didn’t even push myself over the edge.  All victories.”

Sensate focus and confidence

“Hi Bila and Betty. Thank you so sincerely for your time and insight. Above all, I feel great about myself, as time devoted to self-improvement and discipline building generally provides. My erectile problems are a thing of the past. What a wonderful pleasure. I’ve been working on my kegels daily, and have been consciously masturbating and edging when I self-pleasure. Yesterday I went out and bought a container of coconut oil, which is why I’m writing this morning. It blows my mind that that’s what masturbation can feel like. There’s something fantastic about the way the oil seems to make the soft or hairless spots come alive sensually. The middle of the underside of my penis was a place I never knew I loved so much.  The use of the oil, kegels, and very relaxed touching had me really sensate focused. Little bits of progress go a long way and I’m feeling very confident in my calmer less impulsive/compulsive sexuality. Thanks for the support.” 

RPM has made a positive impact in my sexual health

“Masturbation has been fantastic and mostly always is focusing and implementing the Taoist Masturbation and Meditation methods that I have learned from RPM. It really has made a positive impact in my masturbation life and sexual health. Masturbation is always a celebration to take part in for me. Once I always needed pornography for visual stimulation, when now all I need is my self-awareness of my body and where my mind takes me. I become amazed with my enjoyment experiencing self-love and my ability to give myself so much healthy sexual energy throughout my body. It would be so great to find and join a group discussion regarding RPM experiences. When I find the opportunity, I enjoy expressing to others about RPM and how it’s has changed my outlook about masturbation, a whole different approach, spiritual  medication and visualizing of inner energies, my reasons for semen retention , even how I learned and created a blend of essential oils focused to my astrological sign that will enhance my male sexual being. With all of this I refer them to your research with RPM and to your internet site.”

the RPM helps us become the best version of ourselves

“Your explanation of  how sexual arousal and activity is linked to stimulation of the nervous system, the brain, and the endocrine system reinforces the scientific benefits of sexual activity. To optimize brain function by balancing our hormone production is a practical way to improve one’s health. We can all be personally accountable for this activity for our own health and well being which transfers into loving and kind energy towards anyone in our path. Your dedication to ‘getting the word out’ about the generative potentials of our sexuality especially in terms of promoting our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being is the key for anyone who desires to become the best version of themselves. You continue to deepen my awareness of the rich benefits of RPM. Thank you for continuing to raises this awareness for humankind.”

Sensate focus in mindful self-loving

The  article about being  thankful for acts of self-love is rich beyond words.   You beautifully describe the many elements of sensate  focus involved in mindful self-loving.   This deliberate, slow approach to self-pleasuring unfolds into an attitude of blissful gratitude.   I can see how communion with nature and the spiritual energy of the universe happens with the grateful  self-loving.     I will reread this article over and over again  and take a deep breath and thank your for sharing it with RPM and beyond.

An inspiring voice in the community

“Thank you very much for your terrific thoughts, they are inspiring, helpful, you are a down to earth, inspiring voice in the community, in an area normally shrouded in mystery or opacity or superficiality in method or material available. Everything you do is engaging, and that makes understanding or learning about what you do, interesting and pleasant.”